| | Re: I feel dumb for asking....
I use good ol' aqua net hair spray and it works great. There is no way those will lose their shape unless they get dropped in a pool of water lol.
I make the bow first, then spray. Some people want to dry them faster so they put them in the oven, microwave, or use the blow dryer.
They do have some good instructions here to make the bowtique bow you should try that if you haven't already.
I would post a picture of your bow these ladies around here are bow experts and i'm sure somone can point out where you went wrong, or even if you did go wrong. I bet it looks good just not to you lol. I never think any of my bows look good.