| | Re: ideas for 3.5 year old
My daughter is 3.5 also and I am another Southern girl. I use sequin bows or shabby flowers as my favorite go to bow. They are small/inexpensive and you can get them to match anything. Also, you could try putting the bows on satin headbands or interchangeable elastic headbands. They are comfortable and usually stay on well.
As far as the clips go, have you tried no slip grips? They go on the clip and usually help them stay. You can also use the liner that goes under a rug. Most people use it and like it. Search for no slip grips on here.